The Best Way for a 50ish Woman to Meet a Partner the 2nd Time Around

Now that the children are out of the house, you have lots of interests that you haven't explored and many that you've put on the hold because it just wasn't appropriate for young people. It's time to rediscover yourself and meet others with the same preferences. It's perfectly OK not to include the children!

First you need to understand that you aren't looking for a sperm bank, so that opens the market to a wider range of men that might interest you. Do not misunderstand that statement, enjoying sex after 50 may still be important to you, however, you aren't searching for the man to "father your next child."

You might consider joining an online social organization. There are several to choose from, here are just a few off the top of my head; Direct Matches.com, Tagged.com, Facebook.com, or Eharmony.com. The problem with online meeting and emailing is that you never know for sure if the person you meet is who they say they are!   It's quite easy to falsely describe yourself when the person isn't standing in front of you.  Meeting online doesn't provide you with the total image of the person and can be misleading. However, you do get a chance to ask questions and learn about the character of the person without totally committing yourself, so that can be advantageous.

Now, consider all the places you've been visiting to search for a friendship. Obviously they aren't working or you wouldn't be reading this.  It's time to try something new.

Make a list of the things that you've always wanted to do but never got the chance.  Check your local newspaper for upcoming events. You can even research online for your city and special events.  Check out your local city on Craigslist.com under local events. Think of those activities that draw men and add them to your list of activities.

The man you are looking for might be found in these places:

• horse races
• dog races
• drag races
• gym (not the spa or Curves)
• library
• bookstore
• auto store
• tool store (you can always search for gardening tools)
• flea market
• garage sale
• dance class
• gun show
• car show
• art gallery
• art show
• golf course
• restuarants close to major hotels

Try visiting a couple of those every week.  Pick different ones to keep your imagination active.  Keep yourself vibrant and amiable.  Don't be afraid to open the conversation with the guy or gal next to you, because they might have a brother, friend or uncle about your age that's in the same situation looking for someone too! 

Act single.  This is important. If you act and look like an old married woman, then chances are the men won't notice you.  So keep yourself primped and smiling. You don't have to wear clothes that expose your body, but at least wear those fashionable, cute,  and appropriate for the activity clothes. this will help get you noticed.